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  • ElizabethPW says:

    Yes re #5 – that’s huge. I’m a lawyer now, and for a while in law school I was a receptionist at a Big Law law firm, to pay the bills. Some of the attorneys there were *horrible* to me – always condescending and even mean – though to clients and other lawyers they were polite and chatty. Even though I was on law review and in the top 10 of my class, they said they would refuse to consider me for a job because I was “just a receptionist” – obviously, I didn’t want to work there anyway, and would never refer them business later on in my legal career.

    • mckra1g says:

      The phrase “just a” is fraught with condescension and myopia. It’s also a converse mirror of the observers own insecurity. When someone feels that they must malign or belittle another in order to prop up their own esteem, it is a huge red flag for me. No one is “just an” anything. Good points all around, Elizabeth.

    • Terry Reed says:

      You might relate to my reply (from today) on the worst entitled rude guy I’ve ever run into in person (lawyer)

  • ElizabethPW says:

    Yes re #5 – that’s huge. I’m a lawyer now, and for a while in law school I was a receptionist at a Big Law law firm, to pay the bills. Some of the attorneys there were *horrible* to me – always condescending and even mean – though to clients and other lawyers they were polite and chatty. Even though I was on law review and in the top 10 of my class, they said they would refuse to consider me for a job because I was “just a receptionist” – obviously, I didn’t want to work there anyway, and would never refer them business later on in my legal career.

    • mckra1g says:

      The phrase “just a” is fraught with condescension and myopia. It’s also a converse mirror of the observers own insecurity. When someone feels that they must malign or belittle another in order to prop up their own esteem, it is a huge red flag for me. No one is “just an” anything. Good points all around, Elizabeth.

    • Terry Reed says:

      You might relate to my reply (from today) on the worst entitled rude guy I’ve ever run into in person (lawyer)

  • ElizabethPW says:

    Yes re #5 – that’s huge. I’m a lawyer now, and for a while in law school I was a receptionist at a Big Law law firm, to pay the bills. Some of the attorneys there were *horrible* to me – always condescending and even mean – though to clients and other lawyers they were polite and chatty. Even though I was on law review and in the top 10 of my class, they said they would refuse to consider me for a job because I was “just a receptionist” – obviously, I didn’t want to work there anyway, and would never refer them business later on in my legal career.

  • ElizabethPW says:

    Yes re #5 – that’s huge. I’m a lawyer now, and for a while in law school I was a receptionist at a Big Law law firm, to pay the bills. Some of the attorneys there were *horrible* to me – always condescending and even mean – though to clients and other lawyers they were polite and chatty. Even though I was on law review and in the top 10 of my class, they said they would refuse to consider me for a job because I was “just a receptionist” – obviously, I didn’t want to work there anyway, and would never refer them business later on in my legal career.

  • Celest Benn says:

    Peter, I agree with you for the most part. There is only one thing you forgot to mention. An added “entitlement” would be that parents have raised their kids to feel that just because they were born, they are entitled, to EVERYTHING; my kids don’t get an allowance they live in the house for free, my 21 yr old got the hand me down car, with 246,000 miles on it (Volvo), from 1996. I don’t pay for anything except for insurance. He maintains it. He wants to be a surgeon and has gotten into more undergrad internships and research labs because he has to. See the latest UGA discoveries on fuel. My 13 yr old babysits and has dog sat since she was 10. Work will not kill you and parents need to understand that. BTW, my son calls us all the time, loves his little sister and we are also a very close family. Love what you had to say, now just tell parents to buckle up! Celest Benn (ps, you know me and we’ve talked in the past) Have a wonderful day!

    • shankman says:

      TOTALLY great points, Celest! I can tell you, when my kid is born in a few weeks, she’s going to have all the comforts, but she’s DAMN WELL going to know the value of a dollar, and how to get it on her own.

      • Caroline Brobeil Nassan says:

        …sooooo – it’s a she? 🙂 Great post….!

      • MAZEL TOV!!! A girl, wow!! So exciting.. I can’t believe it. Your parents must be over the moon!! Sign me up for watching her one night!!

      • Celest Benn says:

        Peter,
        Thank you for spelling my name correctly.
        Very few ever do!

        Let me know when the baby is here . Since I’m The Birthday Lady I’ll have to find her something special. Celest with
        http://www.Freebirthdaystuff.com

        From my HTC Sensation 4G on T-Mobile. The first nationwide 4G network

        —– Reply message —–

    • You are so right Celest — I brought my daughter up the way you brought your child up and was criticized by many friends of mine. Now, at 20 she appreciates everything and works hard for it. She’s compassionate, an Ivy League student, and works so hard in every job she gets, nothing is coming to her. And you know what, she thanks me for it. Peter, has this down pat!! I’m so glad he said it — I’m sending it to all the job hunters I know.

  • Celest Benn says:

    Peter, I agree with you for the most part. There is only one thing you forgot to mention. An added “entitlement” would be that parents have raised their kids to feel that just because they were born, they are entitled, to EVERYTHING; my kids don’t get an allowance they live in the house for free, my 21 yr old got the hand me down car, with 246,000 miles on it (Volvo), from 1996. I don’t pay for anything except for insurance. He maintains it. He wants to be a surgeon and has gotten into more undergrad internships and research labs because he has to. See the latest UGA discoveries on fuel. My 13 yr old babysits and has dog sat since she was 10. Work will not kill you and parents need to understand that. BTW, my son calls us all the time, loves his little sister and we are also a very close family. Love what you had to say, now just tell parents to buckle up! Celest Benn (ps, you know me and we’ve talked in the past) Have a wonderful day!

    • shankman says:

      TOTALLY great points, Celest! I can tell you, when my kid is born in a few weeks, she’s going to have all the comforts, but she’s DAMN WELL going to know the value of a dollar, and how to get it on her own.

      • Caroline Brobeil Nassan says:

        …sooooo – it’s a she? 🙂 Great post….!

      • MAZEL TOV!!! A girl, wow!! So exciting.. I can’t believe it. Your parents must be over the moon!! Sign me up for watching her one night!!

      • Celest Benn says:

        Peter,
        Thank you for spelling my name correctly.
        Very few ever do!

        Let me know when the baby is here . Since I’m The Birthday Lady I’ll have to find her something special. Celest with
        http://www.Freebirthdaystuff.com

        From my HTC Sensation 4G on T-Mobile. The first nationwide 4G network

        —– Reply message —–

    • You are so right Celest — I brought my daughter up the way you brought your child up and was criticized by many friends of mine. Now, at 20 she appreciates everything and works hard for it. She’s compassionate, an Ivy League student, and works so hard in every job she gets, nothing is coming to her. And you know what, she thanks me for it. Peter, has this down pat!! I’m so glad he said it — I’m sending it to all the job hunters I know.

  • paolop says:

    How would you classify the people who feel the need to comment even when commenting is unnecessary? It’s pretty much voicing the “entitled to their opinion” adage – but at the wrong time. Example: client feels the work needs more, so everyone decides to chime in with their opinions. Sure. You are entitled to your opinions, but that doesn’t mean you’re entitled to make me listen to it.

  • paolop says:

    How would you classify the people who feel the need to comment even when commenting is unnecessary? It’s pretty much voicing the “entitled to their opinion” adage – but at the wrong time. Example: client feels the work needs more, so everyone decides to chime in with their opinions. Sure. You are entitled to your opinions, but that doesn’t mean you’re entitled to make me listen to it.

  • Brenda Spandrio says:

    For most of my life, I’ve had an entitlement mentality (I primarily operated under point 4 above, which made me a perpetual victim and so unable to make progress because I had given over control to anyone and everyone else around me). Fast forward: I’ve been married to a wonderful guy who has his own business and occasionally gets calls from clients who are in a big mess of their own making (my husband tracks all conversations and can *prove* what actually took place). They sometimes get very berating. My husband’s reaction — no matter how much of a jerk the guy is (it’s usually a guy, but sometimes a woman) — is “I’m terribly sorry this happened; what can we do to make it right?” 9 times out of 10 the situation is diffused, the person on the other end owns up to his part in the error and they move forward. The 10th situation is the customer we will no longer work with, once the situation is resolved. I’ve learned so much from this man about how to be a human being!! [Oh, and he ALWAYS gets to know waitstaff and, in ethnic restaurants, we learn to say “Please,” “Thank you,” “hello” and “goodbye” in their language.] Great post~!!

  • Brenda Spandrio says:

    For most of my life, I’ve had an entitlement mentality (I primarily operated under point 4 above, which made me a perpetual victim and so unable to make progress because I had given over control to anyone and everyone else around me). Fast forward: I’ve been married to a wonderful guy who has his own business and occasionally gets calls from clients who are in a big mess of their own making (my husband tracks all conversations and can *prove* what actually took place). They sometimes get very berating. My husband’s reaction — no matter how much of a jerk the guy is (it’s usually a guy, but sometimes a woman) — is “I’m terribly sorry this happened; what can we do to make it right?” 9 times out of 10 the situation is diffused, the person on the other end owns up to his part in the error and they move forward. The 10th situation is the customer we will no longer work with, once the situation is resolved. I’ve learned so much from this man about how to be a human being!! [Oh, and he ALWAYS gets to know waitstaff and, in ethnic restaurants, we learn to say “Please,” “Thank you,” “hello” and “goodbye” in their language.] Great post~!!

  • Amy says:

    I like to do a pay scale check with people before bringing them in. We are a non-profit, our salaries are competitive but not extreme, our benefits are best in the industry and put others to shame. We do a rigorous job of researching and doing comps when we level a job. I’ve had three candidates lecture me on how much they could be making else where. How the person who came up with this pay scale is insane or out of touch. Yet they still want to be considered for the job, presumably only so they can say they turned it down. Like I’d ever want to work with them!

  • Amy says:

    I like to do a pay scale check with people before bringing them in. We are a non-profit, our salaries are competitive but not extreme, our benefits are best in the industry and put others to shame. We do a rigorous job of researching and doing comps when we level a job. I’ve had three candidates lecture me on how much they could be making else where. How the person who came up with this pay scale is insane or out of touch. Yet they still want to be considered for the job, presumably only so they can say they turned it down. Like I’d ever want to work with them!

  • Beth says:

    I was at a press event at a pie shop recently when a self-proclaimed, “very, very good friend of the owner” showed up “just to help out.” She was wearing a white skirt (in Michigan in March, but I won’t digress about her fashion choices). After my photographer had to ask her to move four times because she was talking loudly behind one of the TV cameras, she chose to stand in the middle of the large group of newspaper reporters. She was furious when one of them grazed her white skirt with a pen, leaving a small mark. The next thing I knew, she had the kitchen staff running around trying to find her a clean rag and “just a touch of dish soap” so she could do her laundry in the middle of our damn press event. Meanwhile, their were easily 200 people in line waiting for their pie. I considered bitch-slapping her.

    Not only would I never hire her, I will not do business with her employer, the local chamber of commerce.

  • Beth says:

    I was at a press event at a pie shop recently when a self-proclaimed, “very, very good friend of the owner” showed up “just to help out.” She was wearing a white skirt (in Michigan in March, but I won’t digress about her fashion choices). After my photographer had to ask her to move four times because she was talking loudly behind one of the TV cameras, she chose to stand in the middle of the large group of newspaper reporters. She was furious when one of them grazed her white skirt with a pen, leaving a small mark. The next thing I knew, she had the kitchen staff running around trying to find her a clean rag and “just a touch of dish soap” so she could do her laundry in the middle of our damn press event. Meanwhile, their were easily 200 people in line waiting for their pie. I considered bitch-slapping her.

    Not only would I never hire her, I will not do business with her employer, the local chamber of commerce.

  • Chris Reimer says:

    Humbleness and humility = good! I do think that it’s difficult to “become” humble. You’re either wired that way, or you’re wired to be an entitled jerkface that’s never wrong. I suppose certain earth-shattering life experiences can turn one from entitled to humble, but even then, it’s often hard to forget who the person used to be.

  • Gary Lee says:

    Great post as always Peter. As a serial “start-up” guy, I am always evaluating a potential hire for how they are likely to get their hands dirty and do whatever it takes to get the job done. I’ve made a few bad hires along the way of people who thought some work was beneath their pay grade — big mistake!!

    And I am reading below you have a child about to enter this world?!! AWESOME! Congrats. Hope to reconnect soon. Been far too long since we last spoke….

  • Chris Reimer says:

    Humbleness and humility = good! I do think that it’s difficult to “become” humble. You’re either wired that way, or you’re wired to be an entitled jerkface that’s never wrong. I suppose certain earth-shattering life experiences can turn one from entitled to humble, but even then, it’s often hard to forget who the person used to be.

  • Gary Lee says:

    Great post as always Peter. As a serial “start-up” guy, I am always evaluating a potential hire for how they are likely to get their hands dirty and do whatever it takes to get the job done. I’ve made a few bad hires along the way of people who thought some work was beneath their pay grade — big mistake!!

    And I am reading below you have a child about to enter this world?!! AWESOME! Congrats. Hope to reconnect soon. Been far too long since we last spoke….

  • Roy Weissman says:

    Peter, great post! Entitlement comes in many forms. Some see themselves as the center of attention and behave likewise, some take an elitist perspective and rule out those that don’t “qualify”, much like the experience the earlier commenter had working as a receptionist at a law firm while in law school. Today many exercise this by requiring job applicants to have graduated from a “top” school. I consider myself lucky to have had a father that would talk to anyone, even a homeless person, and would listen to what they had to say first before making any assessment (and not a judgement). I have met many great people and learned so much with this philosophy.

  • Roy Weissman says:

    Peter, great post! Entitlement comes in many forms. Some see themselves as the center of attention and behave likewise, some take an elitist perspective and rule out those that don’t “qualify”, much like the experience the earlier commenter had working as a receptionist at a law firm while in law school. Today many exercise this by requiring job applicants to have graduated from a “top” school. I consider myself lucky to have had a father that would talk to anyone, even a homeless person, and would listen to what they had to say first before making any assessment (and not a judgement). I have met many great people and learned so much with this philosophy.

  • Christel Hall says:

    Peter – went into an interview a few years back with a bit of the #1 attitude going and an assumption or two. Boy did I feel dumb later when I realized I had the wrong information and wasn’t being very open-minded. It’s a good self-reminder whenever I approach a new situation now!

  • Christel Hall says:

    Peter – went into an interview a few years back with a bit of the #1 attitude going and an assumption or two. Boy did I feel dumb later when I realized I had the wrong information and wasn’t being very open-minded. It’s a good self-reminder whenever I approach a new situation now!

  • mvmcd says:

    fabulous!!

  • mvmcd says:

    fabulous!!

  • When I first saw the word “entitlement” I added a silent “Amen!”
    Because I presumed you were reacting to the student’s question and my mind immediately went to the notion of the generations in the workplace and how the older generations perceive the younger generation. So, as a Gen-Xer I was hoping you’d gently remind students that having teachers who think you’re great, having parents who think you’re great, maintaining a high GPA or earning a degree doesn’t mean you will succeed in real life. It also doesn’t mean you have earned anything in the workplace. Yet.

    In the world of PR there’s a common, recurring story: recent college grad with a degree in PR takes a job at a PR agency as a Coordinator. Within two or three months they start complaining that their job is beneath them — they have a degree! They should be doing work that is more important and interesting. Similarly, at a very prestigious local “labratory” a recent college grad was hired. He was not given funding to work on his pet project. So, he started coming to work late and leaving early. He falsified his billable hours. He got fired. It’s a small community and everyone seems to know each other. He’s smart and well-credentialed but for how long will his behavior haunt him?

  • When I first saw the word “entitlement” I added a silent “Amen!”
    Because I presumed you were reacting to the student’s question and my mind immediately went to the notion of the generations in the workplace and how the older generations perceive the younger generation. So, as a Gen-Xer I was hoping you’d gently remind students that having teachers who think you’re great, having parents who think you’re great, maintaining a high GPA or earning a degree doesn’t mean you will succeed in real life. It also doesn’t mean you have earned anything in the workplace. Yet.

    In the world of PR there’s a common, recurring story: recent college grad with a degree in PR takes a job at a PR agency as a Coordinator. Within two or three months they start complaining that their job is beneath them — they have a degree! They should be doing work that is more important and interesting. Similarly, at a very prestigious local “labratory” a recent college grad was hired. He was not given funding to work on his pet project. So, he started coming to work late and leaving early. He falsified his billable hours. He got fired. It’s a small community and everyone seems to know each other. He’s smart and well-credentialed but for how long will his behavior haunt him?

  • Abe Cherian says:

    Great Post Peter. It’s sinking in beautifully!

  • Abe Cherian says:

    Great Post Peter. It’s sinking in beautifully!

  • Andrew from SI says:

    Peter, This was a great piece of writing. I wish managers in the Federal Government would take this advice to heart.

  • Andrew from SI says:

    Peter, This was a great piece of writing. I wish managers in the Federal Government would take this advice to heart.

  • gloria says:

    This was awesome! I always pay attention to how folks treat waitstaff. It kills me when folks are rude for no reason other than “that’s the help” mentality.

  • gloria says:

    This was awesome! I always pay attention to how folks treat waitstaff. It kills me when folks are rude for no reason other than “that’s the help” mentality.

  • Colleen E. says:

    I would add there often is a gendered dimension to entitlement. As a women, I have experienced this time and time again where men feel entitled to “mansplain” something to me, where they take over conversations. In other words, their penis equates to high knowledge or power.

    • OneBadGuy says:

      Another possibility is that you like being a victim in order to place others in your debt.

  • Colleen E. says:

    I would add there often is a gendered dimension to entitlement. As a women, I have experienced this time and time again where men feel entitled to “mansplain” something to me, where they take over conversations. In other words, their penis equates to high knowledge or power.

    • OneBadGuy says:

      Another possibility is that you like being a victim in order to place others in your debt.

  • Miles Prower says:

    You didn’t seem very accepting of that woman’s inability to understand your relationship with your parents.

  • Miles Prower says:

    You didn’t seem very accepting of that woman’s inability to understand your relationship with your parents.

  • Laurelle Johnson says:

    Hear Hear, neither does arrogance.

  • Laurelle Johnson says:

    Hear Hear, neither does arrogance.

  • Laurelle Johnson says:

    Hear Hear, neither does arrogance.

  • Laurelle Johnson says:

    Hear Hear, neither does arrogance.

  • Laurelle Johnson says:

    Hear Hear, neither does arrogance.

  • Laurelle Johnson says:

    Hear Hear, neither does arrogance.

  • Danny Murphy says:

    One sign of entitlement that I really hated was the sign on the door of the executive bathroom of a non-profit social services agency where I used to work. Over a dozen people worked in that office, but that bathroom was off limits for underlings, like me. We had to go to the bathroom by the lobby. I’ll tell you, nothing has ever given me the desire to take a long messy dump more than that sign did. There’s more business humor at http://www.business-humor.com .

  • Danny Murphy says:

    One sign of entitlement that I really hated was the sign on the door of the executive bathroom of a non-profit social services agency where I used to work. Over a dozen people worked in that office, but that bathroom was off limits for underlings, like me. We had to go to the bathroom by the lobby. I’ll tell you, nothing has ever given me the desire to take a long messy dump more than that sign did. There’s more business humor at http://www.business-humor.com .

  • Neil Corman says:

    Great post and all spot on. You want a great example of the first and some of the others, just sit in a boarding area at the airport for 5 minutes just as a flight is boarding.

  • Neil Corman says:

    Great post and all spot on. You want a great example of the first and some of the others, just sit in a boarding area at the airport for 5 minutes just as a flight is boarding.

  • Rob Viens says:

    I would work for this guy in a second. I work in the restaurant business and see this sort of stuff on nearly a daily basis. The worst people are some of the other area restaurant owners that walk in and think they own the place. I’ve actually been asked “don’t you know who I am? I own *insert restaurant name here*” Umm… No, I don’t know who you are, and I couldn’t care less what you own. It doesn’t make you exempt from the rules of common respect and courtesy.

  • Rob Viens says:

    I would work for this guy in a second. I work in the restaurant business and see this sort of stuff on nearly a daily basis. The worst people are some of the other area restaurant owners that walk in and think they own the place. I’ve actually been asked “don’t you know who I am? I own *insert restaurant name here*” Umm… No, I don’t know who you are, and I couldn’t care less what you own. It doesn’t make you exempt from the rules of common respect and courtesy.

  • Rob Viens says:

    I would work for this guy in a second. I work in the restaurant business and see this sort of stuff on nearly a daily basis. The worst people are some of the other area restaurant owners that walk in and think they own the place. I’ve actually been asked “don’t you know who I am? I own *insert restaurant name here*” Umm… No, I don’t know who you are, and I couldn’t care less what you own. It doesn’t make you exempt from the rules of common respect and courtesy.

  • Rob Viens says:

    I would work for this guy in a second. I work in the restaurant business and see this sort of stuff on nearly a daily basis. The worst people are some of the other area restaurant owners that walk in and think they own the place. I’ve actually been asked “don’t you know who I am? I own *insert restaurant name here*” Umm… No, I don’t know who you are, and I couldn’t care less what you own. It doesn’t make you exempt from the rules of common respect and courtesy.

  • Rob Viens says:

    I would work for this guy in a second. I work in the restaurant business and see this sort of stuff on nearly a daily basis. The worst people are some of the other area restaurant owners that walk in and think they own the place. I’ve actually been asked “don’t you know who I am? I own *insert restaurant name here*” Umm… No, I don’t know who you are, and I couldn’t care less what you own. It doesn’t make you exempt from the rules of common respect and courtesy.

  • ChelseaToronto says:

    Agree with almost everything. When I was running a business it was one of the toughest things I had to deal with, young people coming in expecting to run a department because they had done well in university. In many cases, I was able to bring them around and teach them the importance of taking pride in mundane tasks before moving on to “glamorous” ones but I felt like I was undoing someone else’s bad teaching. Small point about people in the service sector. I agree that people who treat wait staff, etc. poorly have a sense of entitlement and I was a waitress during school and I know what it’s like. But nowadays I find that many people in those jobs also have a sense of entitlement so they end up treating their customers poorly.I often wait in line while cashiers gossip to each other or complain about their jobs. Entitlement is not just for people in certain jobs or positions.

  • ChelseaToronto says:

    Agree with almost everything. When I was running a business it was one of the toughest things I had to deal with, young people coming in expecting to run a department because they had done well in university. In many cases, I was able to bring them around and teach them the importance of taking pride in mundane tasks before moving on to “glamorous” ones but I felt like I was undoing someone else’s bad teaching. Small point about people in the service sector. I agree that people who treat wait staff, etc. poorly have a sense of entitlement and I was a waitress during school and I know what it’s like. But nowadays I find that many people in those jobs also have a sense of entitlement so they end up treating their customers poorly.I often wait in line while cashiers gossip to each other or complain about their jobs. Entitlement is not just for people in certain jobs or positions.

  • Trying to be the “best” worker or favorite of the boss by talking about and harping on your co-worker’s faults and mistakes.Tearing someone else down does not magically raise you up and make you a better person. Pointing out the other person’s faults and mistakes does not mean you are any better, in fact it makes me think less of you. Building each other up is the way to build a a team.

  • Trying to be the “best” worker or favorite of the boss by talking about and harping on your co-worker’s faults and mistakes.Tearing someone else down does not magically raise you up and make you a better person. Pointing out the other person’s faults and mistakes does not mean you are any better, in fact it makes me think less of you. Building each other up is the way to build a a team.

  • Terry Reed says:

    I once saw a slick back haired MASTER of entitlement at an airport lounge with his laptop and papers out and tryin’ to be all “phone important” at the same time. When the waiter approached him and made some simple, friendly, brief and unassuming small talk, this guy said one of the rudest things I’ve ever heard: something to the effect of “I’m not here for your conversation, just do your job and get me my order” (and the tone he used was outrageous! The waiter looked embarrassed and tried to recover when he talked to us next. WE were furious. I wanted to bump his table on the way out and knock his cola all over his precious laptop and files…but I restrained myself, as it was pretty clear he was a lawyer…and a total dick!

  • Terry Reed says:

    I once saw a slick back haired MASTER of entitlement at an airport lounge with his laptop and papers out and tryin’ to be all “phone important” at the same time. When the waiter approached him and made some simple, friendly, brief and unassuming small talk, this guy said one of the rudest things I’ve ever heard: something to the effect of “I’m not here for your conversation, just do your job and get me my order” (and the tone he used was outrageous! The waiter looked embarrassed and tried to recover when he talked to us next. WE were furious. I wanted to bump his table on the way out and knock his cola all over his precious laptop and files…but I restrained myself, as it was pretty clear he was a lawyer…and a total dick!

  • Jen says:

    Excellent post. You describe my 23-year old son perfectly in #4 below. If I could go back and do things differently with him, I would in a heartbeat. It is so frustrating to watch.

  • Jen says:

    Excellent post. You describe my 23-year old son perfectly in #4 below. If I could go back and do things differently with him, I would in a heartbeat. It is so frustrating to watch.

  • Shop with Me Mama (Kim) says:

    totally agree. I use to work as a hotel maid and I cleaned rooms. there were some people who left their rooms soooooo filthy and I mean FILTHY, on purpose so I had to clean it. I have been treated badly too. When I go to stay at hotels, I leave big tips and make sure I leave my room in good condition. Great post!

  • Shop with Me Mama (Kim) says:

    totally agree. I use to work as a hotel maid and I cleaned rooms. there were some people who left their rooms soooooo filthy and I mean FILTHY, on purpose so I had to clean it. I have been treated badly too. When I go to stay at hotels, I leave big tips and make sure I leave my room in good condition. Great post!

  • kmck says:

    I really like what you have said. But with respect to the point you are making, isn’t writing “Even I have from time to time” make you sound entitled. Wouldn’t writing something like “I know I have from time to time” make you sound a little more humble?

  • kmck says:

    I really like what you have said. But with respect to the point you are making, isn’t writing “Even I have from time to time” make you sound entitled. Wouldn’t writing something like “I know I have from time to time” make you sound a little more humble?

  • Dan Nainan, Comedian says:

    Peter, this is absolutely fantastic. In my book, nobody is better than anybody else. Not only would I not want to hire someone who is mean to waiters, I wouldn’t even want to hang around that person. You can tell a lot about a person by observing how they treat people whom they don’t need.

    How can somebody give you grief for being close to your parents? That is just astounding. You should tell her that her parents helped her when she had trouble walking, so the least she could do is to be around to help them when they have trouble walking in their golden years.

    By the way, a cell phone jammer would’ve taken care of that loud obnoxious guy on the train. A cell phone jammer is the most wonderful device you can imagine. Not that I have one myself, of course, but I have a very close friend who does.

  • Dan Nainan, Comedian says:

    Peter, this is absolutely fantastic. In my book, nobody is better than anybody else. Not only would I not want to hire someone who is mean to waiters, I wouldn’t even want to hang around that person. You can tell a lot about a person by observing how they treat people whom they don’t need.

    How can somebody give you grief for being close to your parents? That is just astounding. You should tell her that her parents helped her when she had trouble walking, so the least she could do is to be around to help them when they have trouble walking in their golden years.

    By the way, a cell phone jammer would’ve taken care of that loud obnoxious guy on the train. A cell phone jammer is the most wonderful device you can imagine. Not that I have one myself, of course, but I have a very close friend who does.

  • I think ego gets in the way of most business relationships. This post clarifies a lot for me, I knew I wasn’t crazy for judging people who treat wait staff bad. Such an important social interaction. I love the quote:

    “In my walks, every man I meet is my superior in some way, and in that I learn from him.” ― Ralph Waldo Emerson

    Your post was bang on!

    Jeph

  • I think ego gets in the way of most business relationships. This post clarifies a lot for me, I knew I wasn’t crazy for judging people who treat wait staff bad. Such an important social interaction. I love the quote:

    “In my walks, every man I meet is my superior in some way, and in that I learn from him.” ― Ralph Waldo Emerson

    Your post was bang on!

    Jeph

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  • Speaker Sponsor says:

    As a small business owner myself who worked 3 crappy jobs to start my business, I don’t hire just based on a resume either and would never hire anyone with the entitlement attitude.

    Your post explains a lot about the way you are. You still seem to be the same humble Peter I met years ago when HARO was just getting started. Congrats on the new baby! I didn’t even know about it. Guess that’s what happens when I’m absent from your blog for a few months. All the best!

  • Speaker Sponsor says:

    As a small business owner myself who worked 3 crappy jobs to start my business, I don’t hire just based on a resume either and would never hire anyone with the entitlement attitude.

    Your post explains a lot about the way you are. You still seem to be the same humble Peter I met years ago when HARO was just getting started. Congrats on the new baby! I didn’t even know about it. Guess that’s what happens when I’m absent from your blog for a few months. All the best!

  • Speaker Sponsor says:

    As a small business owner myself who worked 3 crappy jobs to start my business, I don’t hire just based on a resume either and would never hire anyone with the entitlement attitude.

    Your post explains a lot about the way you are. You still seem to be the same humble Peter I met years ago when HARO was just getting started. Congrats on the new baby! I didn’t even know about it. Guess that’s what happens when I’m absent from your blog for a few months. All the best!

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